Jackson Galaxyexplains why everything can seem to be going fine and cuddly when your cat suddenly turns mean.
What he calls the “finger nose” actually works great for scratching too, if you go slow and are observant your cat will guide you to where they want skritches, for how long they want them, then where next, just like someone saying “Ohhh, up a little. A bit harder.” and will love you for it!
wish more people realized that cats do not attack for no reason
"You don’t owe people the person you used to be. You don’t have to talk to people who are speaking to the old you. If they want to drag old you out, and you’ve already left that person behind, they don’t get to talk to you. When you’ve gone from weakness to strength, you don’t owe a show of your former self to someone who just can’t wrap their head around your change."